You’ve made reservations at her favorite restaurant, just like last year. Maybe you’ll grab a couple of long-stem red roses on your way home from work. Now there’s just one piece left to the Valentine’s Day puzzle, one that you’ll enjoy as much as she will: lingerie.
But before you run out and splurge on the sexy getup you saw on the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, run through these rules from the stars of Lifetime Television’s Double Divas, Molly Hopkins and Cynthia Richards, owners of LiviRae Lingerie in Atlanta, Georgia. Here’s how to buy her the perfect piece of lingerie—and reap the benefits in the bedroom.
1. Nix the Nurse’s Outfit
Hopkins and Richards agree that the number one mistake men make is only thinking about what they want to see their woman wear. In fact, one of the first episodes of Double Divas features a man who buys his fiancée a nurse’s outfit, which she then promptly returns, complaining about its scarce coverage. “What happens is men buy what they want to see us in and it usually ends up being too small, too tight, and not fitting right.” Aside from the probability she’ll take it back and you’ll never see it on her, Hopkins warns you may leave her wondering just who you were picturing when you bought it.
2. Don’t Freak Her Out
If she doesn’t have a drawer full of lingerie and this is uncharted territory, skip the garters and thigh highs and start with something a little more simple. “Buy a chemise or a flirty, fun babydoll that’s not over the top and not too sheer,” advises Hopkins. A chemise looks like a fancy nightgown that falls straight down from its thin straps with nothing fitted. The only difference with a babydoll is that the garment is fitted around her chest and then flares out, instead of falling straight down. She can sleep in both pieces, so they’re not just meant for the occasional use, Hopkins says.
3. Stay Away from Certain Colors
Go for rich colors, and maybe something with black lace, advises Hopkins. “And stay away from nudes and baby pinks,” Richards adds, noting that those colors may reveal more than she’s comfortable showing. If she’s a little shy, or lingerie isn’t something she wears often, you might also want to stay away from anything see-through. If she’s more comfortable in lingerie, darker-colored sheer material will be more flattering than pale.
4. Look in Her Drawer First
If you have access to her lingerie drawer, simply take a peek at some tags to determine her size. Better yet, dig your favorite item out of her drawer and take it with you to the store, Hopkins says. (Keep it in a shopping bag to avoid looking like a creep.) Also, keep in mind you may need to go up a size if you’re dealing with a fabric that doesn’t stretch. “Lace that has no stretch is going to fit very firm,” said Hopkins. Do, however, buy something that comes in sizes. “Don’t buy one size fits all,” says Hopkins, “because it’s one size fits small.”
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